Socially Savant

I posted on my WhatsApp status: “Why do black women hate other black women”? The responses from this close group of people who constantly watch my status updates around the clock, were interesting. This then probed my mind; firstly most of the responses came from men. So I sat down to pen down what I thought about these issues, which for me are both spiritual and mental. I’ve always had a theory about this very topic. I believe that for the longest of time, deep down within us is the need for the little girl (you and me) to prove a point, either right or wrong, to their mom, aunt and/or grandmother regarding all the things they said were not right or good about the little girl (you and me). For the most part, most black mothers were single mothers; for the most part they were assisted by their mothers to raise their children. Essentially because of how you came into the world and how rough it was, we tend to want to make life easier for the families who had to carry the burd...

We are ushering in Spring and with it comes a great opportunity to clean up your home, your mind, your soul, your spirit and do some Spring cleaning all round. I was talking to two friends about the season I’m in and how I felt there were certain things happening on the physiological level and on the spiritual level. I then felt I should share these with all of you as they might help someone understand what role they can play in enjoying even the valley season of their life, or maybe let’s call it the cleanup season. Unclipping your wings I’ve found myself saying, “No more” often this year. Contrary to what most people in my position, as an entrepreneur and as a freelancer would do, I am expected to say yes to everything out of desperation and need. I said no because I felt it’s time I agreed with what works best for me. It was time I said no to the things I no longer felt were working, knowing that what was meant for me would come. I said no in church, no to my family, no t...