Free me Feminism

The church never loved us. Mary, Martha, Ruth, Tryphina (mom) and Mbali (Me); all these women had to walk alone, they were never loved. How then are we ever going to be loved in present day church?  “The notion that feminism cannot be Christian or virtuous is harmful when you think about it” a very passionate Candice Morrow wrote to me.  

Let’s get gender and biological facts out the way. We are not the same. We never will be. Men are men and women are women. Our battles are different and so are our bodies, emotions; and all the biologists and neurologist will account for it. I remember some time back being laughed at for saying I was a Christian feminist as if to say there was no place for that in the church. Let me tell you something. In my discussions with women, including my mom; the most useless and annoying man known to womankind has to be the Christian men. They will bible bash you into submission. You will sit and listen with amazement at how ridiculous the men are. I am reading a book by Dr Mlisana called “What goes wrong with Mr Right?” and he discusses sexuality and that our gay and lesbian friends and family have been first and foremost hurt or sexually assaulted by a man or person of the cloth. The clergy has been there abusing people and we have sat and applaud them with Hallelujahs like it’s ok. We have worshiped them with stupid titles and bought them gold chairs that look like thrones and let their victims suffer in silence all in the name of honouring “a man of God”.

I have a deep hatred entrenched in me for black men. I had to admit this to myself a few weeks back. I hate black men and other men in general. For many reasons which I will state now:

White men: I hate white men because regardless of how attracted or how much they will admire a black women you have zero guts to approach or even hold her down, (as in date her) because of fear. You also have no idea where to look when you are attracted you just stare like I’m a rare breed of human specimen and I need to return to where ever I came from because your privilege is feeling uncomfortable around me. It’s so annoying. Then you get a few beers down and eventually decide to turn to me hold a discussion and state at the very end with a slight whisper “you are so damn intelligent and sexy wow! I wonder how you would be in bed?”, speak to me in broad day light when you sober then we will see how much of a man you are then. Oh and bring your mom with, I’d love to see her reaction.

Indian men: You have no idea how sickening it has been to experience your sexual predator tendencies in the streets and in social settings.  Your disregard of the fact that I am someone’s child or sister; like I have no feelings and my soul purpose is to be your sexual fantasy; kept in the secret confides of your car, parked in quiet secluded venues. South Africa has not discussed this much, they see it all the time. Indian men remain safe behind their businesses and far away from real debates. The day will come for you.

Black men: Where do I even begin with you? Where? Leaving, lying, drinking, mental slavery and materialistic ways that lead to a lack of ambition I just never know what I’m dealing with every time. How do I even begin to understand what you want when you have no clue yourself? I can only begin to imagine how it feels to be left with a child; from your mothers, sisters to your baby mommas there is a thread of abandoned soul. Most of you are those abandoned souls, you would think you would know from firsthand experience to collect your wits about you and move forward. Honestly I have no idea. What to expect from you brothers anymore.

Having said all this do you not see that the movement towards the Future is Female; is ready to blossom. We are ready to wake up to women leading. We are ready to see women take over companies and see a dawn of female power just because men have really done nothing for women and children. They have nothing to move the needle in churches and society as a whole. Nothing! 

Ps: the statements made here are mine and not of the people mentioned in the article. I also make very sweeping statements and generalisations, feel free to add or condemn them. Feel free to comment below I would love to hear from you.