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Living The Love


It’s been quite a ride this living as a woman. One would think that being born into the world means that there is space for you to just be, to exist. Well, we won’t have that conversation today but for many reasons it’s been quite difficult to live and love.

As a woman, the moment you wake up in the morning you have to put a few hats on just to get you through your morning routine and out the door. The one hat we are never told to wear is that of forgiving self, as women and most importantly as women of colour we need to forgive ourselves in order to live our lives in love. We’re conditioned to forgive the world and everyone in it but ourselves and other women. The acidity fills the cup and it overflows into our workspaces, places of worship, families, our sisters who are doing better than us and most of all it burns every ounce of confidence in self and replaces it with a desire to meet standards set by everyone but ourselves.

One of the many keys that lead to a path of healing is the key branded, ‘forgive yourself darling woman.’ In order to live in love of self and other we need to adapt to forgiving ourselves for all the things we did not say. All the times we’ve been silent when we really needed to stand up. The goals you never chased when you were too happy. When the cup of forgiveness overflows it will flow into our head spaces, our emotional and spiritual spaces. The fruits will be seen in the way we will shed.

You’re never alone, and when you begin to live the love you will begin to attract your tribe. Love those who love you, and those who do it unconditionally. As women we need to create safe spaces for the women around us to lighten their load. To talk, laugh, cry, plan and encourage. You might not be able to assist financially but believing in others and cheering them on all the way even when the light seems to wane is the best gift you could another woman. Teaching and sharing skills to uplift each other without spending money. Stand next to her and whisper words of comfort and courage, when the world spews its rage all around her, remind her of who she is. Live the love you’d like to receive. Claim your rightful place, you are a force!

Contribution Edition by: Candice Morrow
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