Love The One You’re With

We are losing great black men daily. We are facing tragic headlines on a daily basis. Black women are wearing tragedy on their faces and this time not as a mask but as a mood, a mode and state of being. Real black affectionate and present black men don’t get the right credit, and their appreciation or acceptance only appears once they have tragically let us.

We have men who are not looking for glory or shine, but when we see them we criticize them for showing their families affection. Fathers who kiss their daughters on the lips are alienated and seen as paedophiles. When all they are actually doing is grooming their daughters to feel comfortable in their own skin. They are teaching their daughters how to respect themselves and know when its real love and when they are being played by the opposite sex. However we drive home on the negative energy surrounding these black men.

I look at the late Nipsey Hussle and now the late Basketball legend Kobe Bryant. Both these men are black American men and both of them were very present and very affectionate, unapologetically. These men were more than their public figure titles and what they did in the public eye. They were everything to their families and I know for a fact that when you get that type of love you never forget it. So their families will always carry them in their hearts forever. Their families will continue to live their lives making their partners and fathers proud.

My request and reason for my tribute blog is so that we can also get our local men to get on board. Can we get men who don’t get a pat on the back because they pay maintenance but can we have them in their homes, doing homework, planning their children’s futures and getting involved with family life. But instead we see them tweeting “on daddy duty” like it’s a task one ticks off and should get applauded for. I am appealing to men to remain faithful, loyal and to do right to their partners.

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